My friend Lauri told me not to use “but” anymore. We say
things like, “He’s a nice guy, but he drives me crazy” or “She’s pretty smart,
but has no common sense.”
The “but” totally negates the beginning of the sentence.
People don’t believe it anymore, it’s been qualified.
Instead I should use “and.” It is helps people understand
both statements are equally true. It has revolutionized my thinking.
We seem to have a hard time with competing truths, like God
is good and bad things happen. I think, sometimes, Christians put a positive
spin on stories because we don’t want God to look bad. Guess what, he doesn't need our help.
Not looking at both sides is worse than naïve, it’s
dishonest and the world notices. “And” allows us to live in the discomfort of
both realities.
- God is everywhere and I feel alone.
- God is the healer and my friend is dying.
- God is the comforter and I feel broken.
- God is love and I feel unlovable.
If you’re looking for a good example of competing realities, read Elizabeth Elliot’s 40th edition of “Through Gates of Splendor.” The second epilog is darker, harder to read... and much more honest.
Good words. This reminds me of this great post from Dr. Flanagan http://drkellyflanagan.com/2013/02/22/what-crossdressing-taught-me-about-grace/
ReplyDeleteThat is a great article. Thanks for posting it!
DeleteYou can also use the word "yet," which means "at the same time."
ReplyDeleteI hadn't thought about that before Zola. Thank you!
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