Nancy and I were listening to some Country Music the other day. I can't remember the song now but the guy kept saying over and over, "I'm going to show you how much I love you."
Now he didn't ever say explicitly what he was going to do, but the implication was clear, it was all about sex. I started thinking about that and about all of the other songs that have been written by men for women and I realized, that's what almost all of them say.
Listen guys, I'm sure you're good, really good, probably way above average, but if you REALLY want to show your wife you love her, here are some ideas.
Do the dishes. The laundry. Vacuum. Dust. Change a diaper. Cook dinner. Watch the kids. Take her on a date. Give her a massage (without expectation). Take the kids out of the house. Let her have girlfriends. Let her go out with them. Tell her she's brilliant. Tell her she's beautiful. Buy her flowers. Buy her chocolate! Pause the TV and truly listen. Listen some more. And some more. Turn the game off. Study her. Learn.
Do it again tomorrow.
Do you want to show your wife how much you love her? Then help.
Fifty years ago our wives stayed home. We don't live in that world anymore. Most of our wives work. Then they come home and we still expect them to handle everything. More than likely, your wife is exhausted, stressed, worried about 100 things you haven't even thought of. And the last thing she has energy for is you to "show your love." Because lets face it, that's really about what you want.
If you want to show her how much you love her, do what she wants. Help her.
Maybe, my list is way off. Maybe it doesn't apply to your relationship. You can dismiss me if you'd like... but only if you ask her, "What would it look like for you to feel loved?" It may cost you something. I think love always does.
Now he didn't ever say explicitly what he was going to do, but the implication was clear, it was all about sex. I started thinking about that and about all of the other songs that have been written by men for women and I realized, that's what almost all of them say.
Listen guys, I'm sure you're good, really good, probably way above average, but if you REALLY want to show your wife you love her, here are some ideas.
Do the dishes. The laundry. Vacuum. Dust. Change a diaper. Cook dinner. Watch the kids. Take her on a date. Give her a massage (without expectation). Take the kids out of the house. Let her have girlfriends. Let her go out with them. Tell her she's brilliant. Tell her she's beautiful. Buy her flowers. Buy her chocolate! Pause the TV and truly listen. Listen some more. And some more. Turn the game off. Study her. Learn.
Do it again tomorrow.
Do you want to show your wife how much you love her? Then help.
Fifty years ago our wives stayed home. We don't live in that world anymore. Most of our wives work. Then they come home and we still expect them to handle everything. More than likely, your wife is exhausted, stressed, worried about 100 things you haven't even thought of. And the last thing she has energy for is you to "show your love." Because lets face it, that's really about what you want.
If you want to show her how much you love her, do what she wants. Help her.
Maybe, my list is way off. Maybe it doesn't apply to your relationship. You can dismiss me if you'd like... but only if you ask her, "What would it look like for you to feel loved?" It may cost you something. I think love always does.
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